Change is unconditional and instigating change means 'being' the change. The 'if / then' negotiation of life prevails, (if I do this good thing then I will be rewarded) and is largely based upon conditional parenting, religion, politics and the class system. It values and de-values us according to status, gender and race and if we buy into this value system, we are limited for life. Once you transcend this system, the rules evaporate and you become the change you seek without all the legacy guilt or unaffordable price tag.
What does this mean and how can it apply in practice?
If we start at the beginning with the parent and we forget all the generations that came before you (although they are extremely important and need to be acknowledged when focus and desire converge), then we start with the simple premise that the parents' subconscious mind played a part in how you were raised; it had to.
What is the subconscious mind? Well, definition says "it is the part that notices and remembers when you are not actively trying to do so. It influences your behaviour even though you do not realise it."
If we think of the subconscious mind as the bit that stores the standard programs; how to sit on a chair, how to boil an egg, how to go to sleep, it's all the stuff we repeat again and again which has no need to be re-learned. Remember that word, 're-learned'.
Being raised by the subconscious programs of the last generation will make us, to some extent, an echo of our parents and carers. But what if some of those subconscious programs were negative or limiting and being driven out of fear or hatred; what then?
At this juncture, I would ask, to what extent are those programs running our lives today?
If your parents were religious for example, how has that impacted your life today? Do you believe that certain of your behaviours, if not 'holy or pure' will attract the wrath and judgement of some pre-ordained deity? Another example might be if your parents were educationally driven and it was important to them that you attend university in order to secure this job or that. Or, what if they were extremely careful with money and never took any chances? My question is, are any of these things important to you and if they are, how do you know?
These subconscious programs are handed down generation to generation, driven from some sort of social acceptance, religious dictum, exclusion or intolerance, and if we are not fully conscious, we get carried along and unwittingly accept these programs and expectations as being our own.
How many of us have sailed through our 20's and 30's only to realise our life is not how we saw it playing out?; not actually what we wanted for ourselves? Might this be because we are fulfilling the expectations of the previous generation? Could we ask the same question of the generation that came before them?... and the one before that maybe?
So, when standing back and looking at this generational programming, can you see or can you identify times when you have sensed any incongruity or dissonance in what you are doing? Let me put it another way.
Is the life you are leading true to your core values and beliefs?
I'm going to leave things there. I sense they need to bubble along on the back burner for a while whilst pondering takes place.
I leave you with my very best wish for exactly what you want.
Hugs
Chrissy x
